Definition & derivation of “minsanity”

min·san·i·ty
noun \min-ˈsa-nə-tē\ , [mee-in-san-i-tee] ,  {mai-in-san-i-tee}
A portmanteau of “My” and “Insanity”

Definition of MINSANITY
1: doing self-destructive things over and over again and expecting constructive results.

Examples of MINSANITY

· Meeting guys on/from dating sites. Guys you find out quickly that, although meet the outward critereas you set forth, do not seem ready or willing to offer what you are looking to buy, so to say.

· Ignoring red flags. Not getting out of it after you’ve seen all the wrong signs and told yourself to “get out of it while you still can”.

· Getting into a “relationship” with the said person. Sleeping together too soon. Working your time around their schedule. Making their call, email, text the brightest spot of your day.

· Being upset when the said call, email or text don’t seem to come [or as often]. Being impatient and cuing all contacts.

· Refusing to let the person explain. Being unwilling to accept their applology. Thinking that feeling, the “Good riddance. They weren’t the one I were looking for anyway”, would linger.

· Obsess over the potential of the “relationship” when feeling lonely.

· Calling said person back and giving them another chance, losing the little power you had in the process.

· Thinking maybe you were meant to be together now that you had crossed THAT bridge, ward off that storm. Starting to reweb those emotional webs around them. Dreaming the dreams.

· Putting up with it when they start abusing their new found power. Giving them second chances and “benefits of doubts” they neither want nor deserve.

· Going after them when they, for no apparent reason, seem to disappear. Demand explanations and/or stalk them by:
– Befriending them on facebook using a different name
– If they were bloggers, reading their posts obsessively.
– Tweeting stuff connected to them in the hope that they would respond, feel bad, come back.

· Going through the 5 stages of loss/grief:
– Denial [“Never need them anyway!”]
– Anger [“After what I’ve put up with!”]
– Bargaining [Offering to just be friends]
– Depression
– Acceptance

· Telling yourself that you will never let yourself go through this again. Shooting down prospective others who even remotely resemble the ones you just broke up with.

· Having the itch, the hope, the “surely.. there must be one person out there who is like me.. been through what I have been through.. would see that I am how I once saw myself as”.

· Letting your guard down.

· Doing the same thing over again, expecting a different result this time.

Antonyms:
· The ability to change one’s ways when they don’t seem to be working, learning from one’s mistakes, have the ability to walk away and stay away.

Origin:
Albert Einstien; < Latin minsānitās.

Additionals by:
A woman who found out last night that she was figuratively, literally and in all other senses of the word bonkers!